I feel like I am a mostly reasonable person, especially if given the opportunity to think about things before I respond.
Well rewind to a sports banquet that said you could only invite 2 guests per student. Well my righteous husband decided that since the drop down on tickets allowed up to 9, it was fine if I went. I had been to most of the events to support my step-son so I would love to go to the end of year party.
Due to the inability for Tom or Jane to communicate, Jane was beside herself that I was there because it said only 2 tickets AND she did not come early enough to find a seat at a table. So what does she do? She comes up to Tom and says it is only 2 tickets per student. And because I had not time to simmer on my response, I responded, I am not proud that I could not just let it go and let Tom be calm and reasonable. I told her how the website allowed many tickets but all she cared about what that she was the Mom (no debate there, I am not trying to be the mom). I left and told Tom to walk home (was only 1 mile). And the best part is, she still did not have a seat because she refused to sit with Tom. All of this could be avoided if she just sat with us to begin with and appreciate that I want to support the kids also. I want them to like me, I want her to like me.
So a lesson I am still trying to learn is to not respond immediately when I am emotional. It will be an uphill battle but my hope is next time I am confronted with conflict with her, I can keep my composure and be calm and also let my husband deal with her. She should not be my problem, I do not allow drama in my life, yet I a stuck with this woman
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